Life As An Introvert

(-Stephen Hawking)

     Contrary to what most people think, an introvert is not simply a person who is shy. In fact, being shy has little to do with being an introvert! Shyness has an element of apprehension, nervousness and anxiety. Basically, an introvert is a person who is energized by being alone and whose energy is drained by being around other people.

     Introverts like me, are more concerned with the inner world of our mind. we enjoy thinking, exploring our thoughts and feelings. After being with people for any length of time, such as at a party, we need time alone to "recharge." lol. When introverts want to be alone, it is not, by itself, a sign of depression. It means that we either need to regain our energy from being around people or that we simply want the time to be with their own thoughts. Being introspective, though, does not mean that an introvert never has conversations. However, those conversations are generally about ideas and concepts...weird ideas.

     An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people, though they may enjoy interactions with close friends. Because you enjoy reflecting on your own thoughts, you’ll be less likely to get bored when you're alone than someone who needs constant social stimulation.

      Signs of an Introvert personality like me include;
I enjoy having time to myself: When i have the chance to take a break, i'd rather spend time, playing video games, or just listening to music. That quiet time is important to my sense of well-being even though there are plenty of times that i can enjoy social get-togethers.
My best thinking occurs when i'm by myself. if i'm to come up with a creative solution, i'll need some time to work the problem out on my own. Having the opportunity to reflect quietly on a problem allows me/us to make the maximum use of my/our ability to engage in original thought, and to produce results about which we can feel proud.
i'm always the last to raise my hand when someone asks for something from a group, i'll explain...as you might remember from your primary and secondary school days, there were some students whose hands are always up into the air when the teacher asked a question or needed someone to volunteer. Extraverts tend to be ready and eager to stand out in any academic or social situation. We introverts just sit back and let others take center stage. It’s not that I know less than others, I just don’t feel a particular need to be in that limelight.
People ask for our opinion... Just as introverts are less likely to volunteer in public situations, they are also less likely to volunteer opinions or advice in less public settings. Whether it’s a family discussion or a staff meeting to decide how to market new products, people high in introversion will keep their views to themselves and let the noisy extraverts take control. Because of this, and because your advice may indeed be highly valued, it’s likely that if you’re constantly being asked like "hey, WHAT DO YOU THINK?” it might suggest that your behavior sends a message to others to focus to your attention and thoughts inward.
     
     Giving yourself permission to be a little more open in revealing your thoughts and feelings may help you make the best of both worlds, being true to your personality while not erring in the direction of seeming antisocial. Now notice that;
A broken clock is correct two times a day
The word "dreamt" is the only common word in the English language that ends in "mt"
You cannot hear anyone if you are talking

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WHO KNEW LAZINESS WASN'T SO BAD AFTERALL!

(boredpal.com)

Have you ever just sat around doing absolutely nothing? No errands, no agenda, not even any TV! If so did you find it difficult? Perhaps you felt restless or even guilty. Our society values work, productivity and “doing.” Not being engaged in some type of activity is seen as negative and unproductive. But in all honesty there is a great deal of spiritual value in being lazy.

WHAT IS LAZINESS?

According to Merriam-Webster’s Dictionary, the definition of lazy includes: “not energetic, moving slowly, droopy and not rigorous or strict.” Doesn’t sound particularly industrious, but it doesn’t sound evil either. When did a little laziness become so bad? - Laura Hamilton.

Now let us Refraim Laziness

Instead of viewing laziness as wrong, try reframing it. To be lazy means to be inactive yes? lets just see it as respite or simply taking a time out. Who says we constantly have to be doing something at all times? Consider the inherent danger in non-stop productivity. It can separate you from yourself. If you are always doing, when do you get a chance to just be? You run the risk of seeing your identity only in terms of what you do, not in terms of who you are. Be lazy, stop and get to know yourself. 

Why not think of lazy as leisure? It is an opportunity to relax and recharge. What could be better for your body, mind and soul? When you are not on a fixed schedule or confronted by a to-do list, it gives you a chance to reconnect with your inner self.

I would highlight 5 positive reasons for being lazy. They are;

1) You Avoid Busy Work : People really hate busywork. Unimportant meetings that have no effect on your particular department, or meetings that achieve nothing aside from taking up your time. This is time that could be spent actually getting the job done. Lazy people would rather take the task they are assigned and get it done, get it done quickly, and get it done right, so they don’t have to spend any more time on it than absolutely necessary.

2) You know how to Delegate to cover more ground Lazy people make really good leaders, and this point proves it. You put a lazy person in charge of a group of people for a project, they know how to delegate people to certain tasks based on their skills so the job can be done quickly and efficiently. It doesn’t make sense to have one person do everything or have everybody focus on one thing at a time lazy people usually have a knack for making sure this does not happen.

3) You always look for a quicker, more effective way of doing things : Bill Gates said that he would always hire a lazy person to do a difficult job at Microsoft, because they would always find an easier way to do it. Just because you are diligent and clever, doesn’t mean you are going to be more efficient. This just means you will get the job done but you are probably going to do it without finding a better way, and you are going to take a lot of unnecessary steps to get it done. So...Bill Gates will hire you!

4) You focus on only the bare necessities : When given a task to do, lazy people tend to only focus on what is needed, rather than all of the extra details to get the job done. I’m not saying that there is anything wrong with going the extra mile every once in a while, but sometimes it can be too much and it’s just a wasted effort. Lazy people have an ability to figure out when is a good time and when it is unnecessary to do a little extra.

5) You are lazy because you are efficient : Sometimes it may seem that people are just plain being lazy, constantly scrolling their Twitter feeds and reloading Facebook, while you are busy busting your butt. The reality of it is that they knew how to get their job done faster and easier and simply just have the time to sit around.

IN CONCLUSION; 

Its all about how you look at things. You don’t have to work your fingers to the bone day in and day out to be successful. It’s all about how you can get more done in less time and produce bigger results than before. -Michael Daws.

P.s  Even with all these positive reasons, Laziness is still bad, it is even identified as one of the Seven deadly sins. So, DON'T BE LAZY! , Hard Work is better!.

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Living For A Change.

(corewalking.com)

Change is one of the most difficult things that we face,

But change is inevitable. One reason we don’t like change is we get comfortable where we are. 

''We get used to our friends, our job, the place we live, and even if it’s not perfect we accept it because it’s familiar''.

''What happens is because we’re not willing to change, we get stuck in what God used to do instead of moving forward into what God is about to do''.

Just because God’s blessed you where you are doesn’t mean you can just sit back and settle there. You have to stay open to what God is doing now. 

''What worked five years ago may not work today. If you’re going to be successful you have to be willing to change. Every blessing is not supposed to be permanent. Every provision is not supposed to last forever.'' 

''We should constantly evaluate our friendships. Who’s speaking into your life? Who are you depending on? Make sure they're not dragging you down, limiting you from blossoming. Everybody is not supposed to be in our life forever. If you don't get rid of the wrong friends you will never meet the right friends''.

- Joel Olsteen (2016)

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Societal Mask

(strangefacemasks.com)

Masking your soul, waking up with nothing but less of you were yesterday.

A mask that shows how much you have changed, not knowing which road is right or which road leads to happiness and joy.

We pursue happiness behind a mask with insecurities and the satisfaction of society.

A mask that society builds and carves to fit your face and then you lose the real you, the definition of who you are and what you want.

I do not know who you are

I do not know what you want

but look , LOOK!

Do you still see you?

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